Saturday, September 21, 2013

EDUC6165 WK3: My Personal Styles of Communication



            Throughout our lives we have had to communicate with members of a diverse society.  Diversity can stem from differences of age, beliefs, religion, ethnicity, political affiliation, socio-economics, and gender (O’Hair, & Wiemann, 2012); just to name a few.  Our communication can be based upon personal and/or professional relationships.  We may be very familiar with or know very little information about who we are communicating with. 
            I feel that I do communicate differently with people, depending upon their age, level of understanding, language capabilities, and whether it is of a personal or professional nature.  In order to communicate successfully and effectively both parties must understand the message being relayed; each of these things need to be considered and accommodated for properly (O’Hair, & Wiemann, 2012).  I must be observant of how the other party is responding to my communication efforts.  Verbal and non-verbal cues can give me an indication whether I need to alter my style and/or method of communication.  I need to be responsive to their efforts to communicate as well.  Listening is a vital part of the communication process.
            Three strategies that would help me to communicate more effectively with any person or group are:  1. State my message clearly in a manner that is understandable for the person or group I am communicating with; 2. Watch for signs that the message has been received and understood; 3. Practice the skills necessary to be an effective communicator (listen carefully and effectively, think before speaking or acting, be empathetic to other persons involved, and practice ethical communication) (O’Hair, & Wiemann, 2012).  I would like to add to be able to control my emotions to this list.  If a person let’s their emotion control their thoughts, actions, and/or words miscommunication will result or your efforts can be dismissed and not given the attention that is necessary to be effective.  I find that I can become quite emotional when the well-being and rights of my children and families are involved and this does not allow my message or intent to be heard correctly and/or taken seriously.  To become an effective advocate and communicator this skill is especially important to achieve my goals.
Reference
O’Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication:  An introduction.New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

1 comment:

  1. I forgot to mention my emotions in my post! I also let me emotions get the best of me in arguments. What I dislike the most is when I get into a heated, we'll call it a discussion, with my husband I tend to cry very easily. It's not that I am sad or anything, my emotions just literally bubble over. It started happening much more often when I was pregnant and now it happens almost everytime. I feel even worse because then my husband feels like he made me cry. But anywho, controlling my emotions when I am trying to communicate effectively is definitely a skill that I would like to improve upon as well.

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